Adoption can be a wonderful way to grow your family while providing a home for a child in need. However, there are important legal, financial, and emotional considerations to think about before making this big decision. Below are some considerations you and your family should discuss before adopting a child.
Why do you want to adopt a child?
Before deciding to adopt, think through the reasons why you're considering adoption. The only good reason to adopt is if you love children and want to be a parent. Adopting will not fix the pain of infertility, nor will it help patch up an unhappy marriage. It's important to move past those notions before beginning the adoption process.
How old is the child you want to adopt?
Consider the age of the child you'd like to parent. States have various legal requirements that depend on the age of your adopted child, so it's a good idea to consult with a knowledgeable adoption lawyer on this matter. While many people want to adopt newborn babies, this means that there is often a long wait for adoption of this kind. If you are an older parent, you may find that an older child is a better fit for your fitness and energy level. And if you already have children in your home, experts usually agree that you should not adopt a child who is older than your youngest child.
Will your home accommodate a child?
If you'll be a first time parent, it's important that your living space is able to safely accommodate a child before beginning the adoption process. This means that there are enough bedrooms and space for the child to play. You should also consider the schools available in your area and whether your job will mean that you need full- or part-time daycare if the child is younger than school age. Many of these environmental considerations will be evaluated during a home study, during which an adoption agency will evaluate your lifestyle as a potential parent. You may wish to have a lawyer assist with the home-study process to ensure you have all the necessary evidence to show you're a qualified parent.
Are you prepared for potential hurdles?
While you may be willing to parent a child of a different race, there are special considerations that come with interracial adoption. Adoptive parents should prepare their children for any discrimination they may face and celebrate their children's cultural heritage. If you adopt a child with special needs, you should be prepared for the medical, logistical, financial, and emotional costs that will accompany parenting your child to adulthood.
