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Should you Ask for Cash for Your Wedding?

Wedding registries are a good way to let your guests know exactly what you want or need, but what happens if you’re not even sure what this might include? In cases like this, it can be tempting to simply request cash for a wedding present. It prevents you from receiving things you won’t need or use and allows you to figure out what you want to spend the money on later. The idea of setting up a cash wedding registry is a bit of a new one, though, so it should take some careful consideration before settling on. Here are some things to keep in mind if you are considering this option.

  1. Do you need it?
    People may view asking for cash as either tacky or practical, but if you have most everything you need for your home then asking for more won’t do you any good at all. Some couples ask for money and put it towards their debts such as student loans, while others use a cash wedding registry to put towards a down payment on a home. One suggestion if you are considering money: provide some examples of things the money might be spent on. Guests will feel better about the idea of giving money if they have an idea of what their money will be used for. 
  2. How will your grandma feel about a cash wedding registry? 
    Asking for cash may lead to some disdain from older guests. Since asking for cash is a fairly new concept, and it is traditional to receive physical gifts at a wedding, members of older generations may not take well to the idea. One option to solve this problem would be to include a small registry for those guests who may not be comfortable with giving cash gifts. Be aware of who will be attending your wedding and try to make the time a good experience for them as well as yourself.
  3. How will you spread the word? 
    If you decide to start a cash wedding registry, then make sure to let those closest to you know about your plan. This way, as people begin asking both you and your parents, relatives, and close friends about what you might like they can inform them that cash would be appreciated. It may also be good to include some sort of reason to go along with the explanation. Explain to your guests what factors influenced your decision so they will feel more open to the idea.  
  4. What will you say? 
    Inform people about your wishes, but be careful how you word it. If you do still receive physical gifts from some people, keep in mind that these gifts show that people care about you and are happy about your wedding. Be polite, but don’t be afraid to ask for the cash gifts that you want. Inform your guests that you have what you need, and that cash is the most useful to you and your partner. Don’t forget to include what the money might be used for, whether it is the honeymoon, a new home, or even simply buying your own gifts later on. 
Last Updated: February 14, 2017